We are all guilty of making mistakes. As a matter of fact... we make them daily. I know I do. I am not perfect. You are not perfect... no one is. There is no such thing as a perfect person. I haven't met one yet.
The problem I see with people these days is that when they have made a mistake - they feel as though there is no bouncing back from it and then continue to dig themselves an even bigger hole... then pretty much pack up and live there.
That's where the real mistake is... you're not supposed to live there. You make a mistake, you own up to it, make yourself accountable... and if it is something that can be fixed -repair and move on. Apologize and focus on making better choices. If it is not something that can be easily fixed... then own up, do what you ARE able to do to repair the situation and move on from it.
Trying to cover it or brush it under the rug is not going to make it better or go away... that just ultimately makes it worse.
What really speaks for you are your actions after you've made a mistake or made a not-so stellar choice. Yeah, you may have to spend a moment or two in the hot seat, but that goes with the territory... own it!
Owning up to what you've done and being accountable says a hell of a lot more about you than what you did to fuck up in the first place. Trust me. We all have our moments. No, it isn't fun... but it is what it is. If you did it... don't leave it up to chance... do not leave it for someone else to shoulder the blame... be real... own your actions.
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| I'd rather the ugly truth rather than to be comforted by pretty lies... |
For me personally - I would rather hear the ugly truth rather than be comforted with pretty lies. I could forgive an ugly truth, but those pretty lies? Not near as easily. And lies... always come back to haunt you. Not to mention you have to keep covering a lie with another lie. It's a vicious cycle and one you do not want to find yourself trapped in.
The majority of the time ... the truth is already known... so you make yourself look worse by attempting to cover it up. You made a mistake? Okay - we can deal with that. Lie about it? We have a real problem.
Show up and own up. Let your character speak when you can't.
You don't have to wear a label as a "fuck up" just because you messed up.
Remember that every one... and I do mean everyone has made mistakes in their lives.
You are not the only one.
Do not let your mistakes define you.
Do not let your mistakes define you.
