Failing Doesn't Mean You Quit

Failing at something does not mean you just quit.... 

Just because something didn’t work out the way you planned the first time, doesn’t mean next time..., it won’t be a success. The difference between winning and losing is whether you get up, give it 110% or just sit there and do nothing. You may have “lost the battle”, but that doesn’t mean you have lost the war.

Failure means you’re at least trying. Which means you are way ahead of the game. Do you know how many people out there think of doing something or wish something would happen, but they never try to help things along? A shit-ton. 

I am an entrepreneur... and I am the only one in my family. The rest are earning their living the way they saw everyone else making theirs... It’s the normal 9-5 grind, the afternoon-evenings, or an overnight shift at a company somewhere making x amount of dollars... and that is where they are comfortable and that is okay. I am not knocking that in any way... it’s an honest living, but it isn’t for me. I have always wanted the “unconventional” ... I did not want mainstream. I never wanted to be like everyone else. I had dreams. I did not want to cap my potential or limited by the industry standard. 

I wanted to try everything and then I wanted to settle in and focus on building my own empire!  If you could see the looks, I have gotten when I had a new idea or had found something, I really wanted to try... I can say with certainty... those looks were not encouraging. In fact, I have gotten so many, “How are you going to make any money doing that?!” or... “You will never be able to make a living that way!”. I am not going to lie, it used to hurt my feelings, but over the years, I learned to take those opinions with a grain of salt. 

Not everyone is going to see or even understand your vision... and that is okay. They don’t have to, but just because they don’t, does not mean you quit. I am not saying to go out and quit your day job (evening job, night job, or whatever job)... No... keep working, bring in the bacon, and squeeze in the dream, in your spare time. Sure, you are busy... we’re all busy. “Free time” isn’t so much free. It isn't about "having" time, you have to MAKE time for what you want... or else it is not going to happen. It isn’t just going to fall into your lap. Unless, of course, you have somehow managed to score yourself a fairy godmother, and if that is the case, I want one too! 

If you are like the rest of us... then it is going to take hard work and dedication. Persistence is key here.  Not all of that shiny shit you may think you need in order for it to work. Everyone has to start somewhere. Most of the people you follow, those who have reached success in what they were after... they started at the bottom too. 


Dive in and get excited to fail! At least you’re trying. But keep on keeping on! 

Because when you do? Guess what?! That idea you have been bouncing around in your head...? That dream of the life you want...? Is possible and you will have it... if you believe in yourself and you work for it. 

Start now, with what you have, in every moment you make available. If that means stay in when others are going out, get cozy, and get to work. Just stop making excuses and get started. The longer you wait, the longer it takes... and don't you think you've already waited long enough?! 

I believe in you! 

Now, what are you waiting for? Get to it!  

Your Mistakes Do Not Define You - Your Actions Following Your Mistakes Do.

We are all guilty of making mistakes. As a matter of fact... we make them daily. I know I do. I am not perfect. You are not perfect... no one is. There is no such thing as a perfect person. I haven't met one yet. 

The problem I see with people these days is that when they have made a mistake - they feel as though there is no bouncing back from it and then continue to dig themselves an even bigger hole... then pretty much pack up and live there. 

That's where the real mistake is... you're not supposed to live there. You make a mistake, you own up to it, make yourself accountable... and if it is something that can be fixed -repair and move on. Apologize and focus on making better choices. If it is not something that can be easily fixed... then own up, do what you ARE able to do to repair the situation and move on from it. 

Trying to cover it or brush it under the rug is not going to make it better or go away... that just ultimately makes it worse. 

What really speaks for you are your actions after you've made a mistake or made a not-so stellar choice. Yeah, you may have to spend a moment or two in the hot seat, but that goes with the territory... own it! 

Owning up to what you've done and being accountable says a hell of a lot more about you than what you did to fuck up in the first place. Trust me. We all have our moments. No, it isn't fun... but it is what it is. If you did it... don't leave it up to chance... do not leave it for someone else to shoulder the blame... be real... own your actions. 

I'd rather the ugly truth  rather than to be comforted by pretty lies... 

For me personally - I would rather hear the ugly truth rather than be comforted with pretty lies. I could forgive an ugly truth, but those pretty lies? Not near as easily. And lies... always come back to haunt you. Not to mention you have to keep covering a lie with another lie. It's a vicious cycle and one you do not want to find yourself trapped in. 

The majority of the time ... the truth is already known... so you make yourself look worse by attempting to cover it up. You made a mistake? Okay - we can deal with that. Lie about it? We have a real problem. 

Show up and own up. Let your character speak when you can't. 

You don't have to wear a label as a "fuck up" just because you messed up. 

Remember that every one... and I do mean everyone has made mistakes in their lives. 

You are not the only one.

Do not let your mistakes define you.